rust-dirstatemap: add `set_cached_mtime` helper method
This will help remove the `get_or_insert` method, which is dangerous because it
does not take the `DirstateMap` counters into account
Differential Revision: https://phab.mercurial-scm.org/D12526
$ echo "[extensions]" >> $HGRCPATH
$ echo "mq=" >> $HGRCPATH
$ hg init
$ echo 'base' > base
$ hg ci -Ambase
adding base
$ hg qnew -mmqbase mqbase
$ hg qsave
$ hg qrestore 2
restoring status: hg patches saved state